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Pastor Wife 101 Developing Heart People

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The Text: Romans 1:8-14

First, I thank my God through Jesus Christ for all of you because the news of your faith is being reported in all the world. God is my witness, whom I serve with my spirit in telling the good news about his Son—that I constantly mention you, always asking in my prayers that if it is somehow in God’s will, I may now at last succeed in coming to you. For I want very much to see you, so that I may impart to you some spiritual gift to strengthen you, that is, to be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith, both yours and mine.

Now I don’t want you to be unaware, brothers and sisters, that I often planned to come to you (but was prevented until now) in order that I might have a fruitful ministry among you, just as I have had among the rest of the Gentiles.I am obligated both to Greeks and barbarians, both to the wise and the foolish. So I am eager to preach the gospel to you also who are in Rome.


In the podcast, I saved this until the last, but let’s take a look at Romans 1:13 first. Paul’s “why” for developing a heart for people was that he would have a fruitful ministry. In this case, the word “fruitful” comes from a Greek word meaning “everything done in true partnership with Christ.” Paul wasn’t trying to build a megachurch for his own glory, he was simply fulfilling the call of God on his life and that can only be through serving people the way Christ did and relying on Him for wisdom and strength. A fruitful ministry is the result of a partnership with Christ and results in the transformation of countless lives.


Paul’s attitude towards the calling on his life is the secret sauce in this passage. Paul was “eager” to minister. He was “enthusiastically willing” to get out there and love people. You and I both know that very often we have to CHOOSE to be “enthusiastically willing”, it doesn’t always come naturally. Paul did not allow a negative attitude to hold him back from a frutiful ministry. Choose JOY!


  1. Paul was thankful for the people he served. He recognized people as a blessing, not a burden. He saw every encounter as an opportunity for God to do something in their lives and in his own.
  2. Paul was prayerful. Prayer creates bonds between people. When we take time to pray specifically for the people we serve, our hearts are turned toward them. We see them through a different lens and it makes a huge difference!
  3. Paul was generous and wanted to see people thrive. He knew they needed to become firmly established in the faith and he wanted to do everything possible to make that happen. Helping them grow spiritually was a big deal to Paul.
  4. Paul was relational. Paul did not see himself as better than the ones he served. He didn’t build walls to keep them out. He expected to receive encouragement from them in the way that naturally happens when people are in spiritual unity.

Links I Mentioned

She Reads Truth Bible – [affiliate link] I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this Bible’s wide margins and the feminine touches throughout.

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